I've been to a lot of different doctors.
I don't have that many medical problems, but I'm a woman and I think women go to doctors more than men. We're supposed to have annual exams and are obligated to keep up with that, on threat of losing birth control. And since I move practically yearly, that's resulted in my having seen a lot of different doctors. Being pregnant resulted in a lot of doctor's appointments and a few times my own OB wasn't around, so I saw another doctor. Then joining an HMO insurance meant I had to have a primary too, so that was more doctor's appointments. And I've had scattered other medical issues here and there, so those sometimes warranted appointments. So anyway, I've been to a lot of doctors.
I've liked the vast majority of these doctors. Sometimes I like them so much, I feel bad about myself that I can't be more like them. But occasionally, I get one who has a really awful bedside manner.
I remember in med school, I was at a doctor for my annual exam and I told him I was feeling stressed out. He told me he didn't get why med students always felt stressed out, because he found med school really easy. Thanks.
Recently I had an encounter at a doctor that I was very unhappy with. Not to go into specific details, but I was scheduled for a (painful) test at the office and I said I wanted to speak to a doctor for a minute before I did it.
The tech doing the test acted really put out by the whole thing, but finally agreed. A few minutes later, they located a doctor who was between patients.
The doctor (who I had never met) came over to me with a really pissed off expression her face. She was angry before I even opened my mouth, because she had to take 60 seconds out of her schedule to speak to me. I told her I was a physician and tried to quickly explain my concerns, how I had researched the test and felt that it wasn't necessary for my specific situation (I didn't physically bring any articles because I thought that would be obnoxious). She (angrily) repeated some mantra about the test, which indicated that she was looking only at a number and nothing else. When I explained my concerns further, she said, "Well, I'm documenting that you're refusing!" And she stormed off.
I work with a lot of patients who refuse things, mostly lovenox shots. I would really hope that I don't act that way around them. I know how hard it is to paste a smile on your face when a patient is inconveniencing you, but I try to do it. If she had been nicer, I probably would have done the test. But after that encounter, all I wanted to do was leave that office and cry.
And for the record, when I later talked to my own doctor, he 100% agreed that it would have been overkill for me to do that test.