Here's a cautionary tale with the holidays approaching:
During one December in my residency, I was doing a clinic with a resident that I didn't get along with super well named Jimmy.
When he arrived at clinic one morning in late December (1/2 hour late as usual), he announced that he had Christmas presents for everybody. He had an individually wrapped present for each of the three nurses we work with and for our attending.
Honestly, when I'm pissed off, I usually keep my mouth shut. But this got me beyond pissed off.
"So," I said, "you got a present for everyone in clinic, huh? You didn't get anything for me, did you? If you're going to make me look bad, you could have at least gotten me a present."
Jimmy: "But... I just wanted to get everyone a thank you present..."
Me: "Blah blah blah."
I absolutely did not want a present from Jimmy, but honestly, how shitty does it make me look if he buys a present for everyone in the clinic and I have nothing? He could have given me a heads up that he was going to do that or offered to go in on something with me if he felt so desperately compelled to give gifts. Plus, he gave a present to the attending which is just... well, you know. I've given a few boxes of chocolates to attendings but only to thank them for something very specific. (Like when one attending gave me a TON of used baby clothes and toys or one wrote me a letter of recommendation.)
I didn't bring it up again, but I was honestly so angry at him, I wanted to cry for a little while. I thought everyone was going to hate me now because I was the resident who didn't give everyone presents. I tried to redeem myself by seeing three patients out of turn while Jimmy was still struggling to get through his one new patient. (The attending said I didn't have to, but I figured I should in lieu of a present.)
Anyway, at lunch, all the residents were chatting and a few of the girls brought up the fact that for the second year in a row, our junior chief resident had bought presents for every single attending in the department, even the ones he never worked with. (This was also the second year in a row that he was the resident who got Christmas week off. Not sure how he maneuvered that.)
"What a kiss ass piece of shit," she said. Everyone else agreed. Jimmy was silent.
After the girls left, Jimmy said, "Gee, I didn't think about it that way. I guess I shouldn't have gotten those presents, huh?"
Damn straight. He was probably just grateful I didn't mention what he did to the other residents.