I've noticed that sometimes in the comments on this blog, people have called me "passive-aggressive" a few times. It's not that I'm never passive-aggressive, because sometimes I am, but I can't say that one time I've been called that, it's been appropriate. So maybe people don't know what it means?
According to Wikipedia, "passive-aggressive behavior is a category of interpersonal interactions characterised by an obstructionist or hostile manner that indicates aggression, or, in more general terms, expressing aggression in non-assertive, subtle (that is, passive or indirect) ways." Say wha? That definition is a little confusing, but it's a term my father used to use a lot (correctly), so I know it when I see it.
For example, say 13 year old Fizzy was told to take out the trash by her dad. 13 year old Fizzy doesn't like taking out the trash. So she puts it off as long as she possibly can, has to be told three times, each time replying, "All right! I'll do it!" Then when she finally does it, she allows some excess garbage to spill on the floor of the kitchen. And then when she's dramatically dragging the garbage out to the bin, her father says, "Fizzy, quit being so passive-aggressive."
Other examples include conveniently "forgetting" things I didn't want to do, sulking excessively, and making excuses for things I didn't want to do.
Things that are not passive-aggressive:
My post about "DO discrimination." I was trying to explain about why people discriminate against DO's and I was accused of being passive-aggressive. Because....? I'm not a DO, I like DO's, I was just trying to make an informative post. How in any way, shape or form was that passive-aggressive?
In a recent post about internship, I talked about how I didn't like when I was asked to come in on my day off for orientation, and I was accused of being passive-aggressive. So any time you are upset about something, you are passive-aggressive? In order to be passive-aggressive, I'd have to come in and do my job shittily and act like a bitch to everyone there.
I think people need to learn what that term means, seriously. Because I'm getting sick of explaining it.