My husband probably won't appreciate this whine, but maybe you can help me settle this once and for all.
He used to have this single female friend from college named Patty who was a few years younger than him. A few years ago, we moved to an area where Patty lived, and he suggested that we all get together.
In the past, he'd suggested that I was jealous when he IMed with Patty. I guess I was a little jealous, but not really. We were mostly just joking around about it. I was entirely on board with having lunch with Patty and getting to know her.
So we arranged for Patty to come over for lunch. She brought a nice present for our daughter, which was nice of her. But the niceness of this gesture was diminished by the fact that when she walked into the living room, she said, "Wow, this place is really messy."
I think I had cleaned the night before, but as we all know, a two year old can create a huge mess in a matter of minutes. So I was caught at a bad moment. In retrospect, in the five minutes before she arrived, I should have quickly swept everything away. But I didn't, mostly because we were going straight out to eat, so I didn't think it mattered.
And she actually managed to comment on it a second time. She said, "It's just really messy. I didn't expect it to be so messy."
Fine though. She was right, to some extent. Although this was the very first time a non family member had criticized my apartment for being messy. Either I managed to clean better in the past, or else the others had a modicum of manners.
Anyway, we went out to lunch. It was going all right, I guess.
Then about midway through the meal, my husband said something to Patty that was somewhat teasing. She giggled, smacked him in the arm, and said, "He's so bad!"
I felt really awkward and definitely pissed off. This was pretty blatant flirting, done right in front of his wife, who she just met. I had been totally open to liking Patty, but I felt like her behavior made me really uncomfortable and I didn't want to see her again.
When I brought it up to my husband later, he admitted he thought it was a little weird, but she's like that with everyone so there's nothing he could do.
What do you think? Was I right to not want to see her again?