A bit ago, I made a post about how some women can be very hostile towards other women just for being skinny, even if they are not at all obsessed with looks. I'm probably asking for trouble here, but there's more I'd like to say on the topic.
First of all, I want to apologize if I did not seem sensitive enough. I genuinely think women look good at any size, unless they are at some extreme, and I would never in a million years consider making a negative comment to another woman about her weight and I can't imagine the mindset of a person who would, so perhaps I don't realize how much crap overweight women have to endure. In that sense, when I make posts like these, it is eye-opening for me. Some people accuse me of always thinking I am right because I don't immediately change my opinion when someone disagrees with me, but I do genuinely listen to everything people on here have to say.
For example, one woman told about how she underwent chemotherapy and experienced severe nausea. She said, "for a while, I couldn't eat much without getting nauseous. I had that condition for over a year. It sucked. But would take that over the easy weight gain any time. Hands down. Not even a close call." It is definitely a commentary on how obnoxious people must be to overweight women if someone would rather lose weight from being horribly nauseated from cancer therapy than be healthy and overweight. Of course, women do unhealthy things to lose weight all the time. The commentor then went on to say that she "cried with joy", not because of a cure for her illness, but because she lost weight.
That sort of attitude, valuing pants size over health, speaks volumes about how difficult it must be to be an overweight female. Although I genuinely hope most women would not rather be sick than overweight. If they did, there are a few hot dog carts in New York that I think would be getting a lot more business.
The truth is, I think women are always going to judge other women (as a mother, I have received a very large amount of unsolicited judgment and critique on my parenting), and weight is something that is very visible, and easy to critique people on since it seems like it should be changeable, although any intelligent person would realize that that's not often the case. I don't know if society can change how we think about weight, or be less judgmental. However, I feel strongly that we should help women to realize that is never acceptable to make an unsolicited comment on another woman's body. (Or her parenting, for that matter.)