Two hair-related whines in a month? Craziness.
I can't help it though. I hate it when men have long hair. Clearly there are other women who disagree... I've deduced this because there are a lot of guys out there with long hair and there probably wouldn't be if all women found it unattractive.
I'm not sure why I hate it so much. Maybe because it shows a degree of vanity that I don't find attractive in the opposite sex. Also, a man with long hair reminds me of a very hairy woman.
In college, I dated a guy with long hair. His hair went way down his back. And it was curly. It was pretty much everything hair on a guy shouldn't be.
I was hoping that in time, I'd grow to like the hair, but that didn't really happen. On one occasion, I got one of his hairs caught in my throat, and I wanted to vomit from disgust. I realized that I was going to have to dump this guy because of his hair.
Of course, I'm not that shallow and this guy had other redeeming non-physical qualities, so I decided instead to try to get him to cut his hair. I started out by casually asking him what he liked so much about having long hair. He figured out what I wanted pretty quickly, and to my amazement, he agreed to cut it. And that definitely helped, although he was still the kind of guy that had long hair.
And after we broke up, he immediately grew it out again.
Haha. I can totally relate to this post. I too dated a guy with long hair, and objectively speaking, it was beautiful long hair. I mean, I wish I'd had hair that nice. I still hated it. My husband has a really short cut, and I think it looks WAY sexier.
ReplyDeleteI think short hair on a guy is always sexier than long hair. It doesn't have to be a military cut or anything, but definitely short. Even guys who are sexy with long hair, like Gavin Rossdale, look better with short hair (to me).
DeleteI'm with you on this issue. There's something very un-manly about a long haired guy.
ReplyDeleteWho would have long hair when they have the option to cut it really short or shave it off all together. Long hair is such a hassle to take care of and I never understand it when guys choose to wear their hair long. And it's especially annoying when their long hair looks better then mine ever did!
ReplyDeleteYes, somehow it's more distasteful if the guy has really nice hair. Maybe because then it seems like more of a vanity thing than if he just was too lazy to cut it.
DeleteHow do you feel about women with long, loose, totally unrestrained hair? It really. Others me, especially medical providers whose hair gets in the way every time they look down. Seems like a potential infection control issue too....gown, gloves & face shield with hair everywhere!?!?
ReplyDeleteI honestly don't know many female doctors with long hair they wear loose. I wear my hair loose most of the time, but it's chin length.
DeleteI'm trying hard not to get offended, but I cannot.
ReplyDeleteMot guys (like me, I admit), who have long hair do not do so simply because of "vanity", and surely not to attract women!! Our "manliness" is not reflected by our hair as one of the comments suggest.
It is a matter of personal preference, some guys like to have long hair, just like some girls like to have short hair
Most of your "whines" are fun and even educational, this one however, is truly a whine, and nothing else.
Maybe I shouldn't be disappointed
Perhaps you feel it wasn't "fun" because this is the first time it affected you personally? I mean, talking about guys with long hair is about as benign as it gets.
DeleteMen might choose to have short hair because it's functionally easier, makes them look more professional for a job, or they might like the way it looks. But I can't fathom a reason why a guy would have long hair other than liking the way it looks (unless they're developing a rock star persona). Adopting a more high maintenance hairstyle just because you want to look good is, to me, the definition of vanity. There's nothing wrong with it.... women do it all the time. But it's not a quality that I personally find attractive in the opposite sex.
If you'd like to educate me on other reasons why a man might have long hair, then I'd be happy to listen :)
The thought did occur to me, but after reflection I can say with certainty that my disagreement with this whine was not because of personal reasons.
DeleteIt is just that I can see the logic behind most of your whines (and posts in general), but with this particular one, I cannot come with any conclusion except "I hate long hair because I hate long hair"
IMHO a good percentage of men choose to have short hair because of social norms and (in some instances) pressures. That does not mean the other reasons are invalid, but imo that's not what the majority of men think about when they choose short hair.
Some men choose to have long hair to fit in a group (bikers, rock/metal musicians or fans....). Others choose long hair to defy or protest the "conventional" norms, and still others (like me), do it for spiritual or religious reasons. Assuming all those who grow their hair do it because of vanity is an oversimplification
"Long hair is much more than just a thing
of vanity for me. It is tradition.... identity....
and even spirituality. When I feel my hair
on my back, I am reminded of the years it
has taken to grow, and how I too have grown."
- John Two-Hawks
Well, this is my personal blog and I'm entitled to give my personal opinions. A few weeks ago, I wrote about how family decals on the back of cars was annoying to me. I didn't have a specific *reason* for it. A few people who had them responded with an equal amount of offense to what you're expressing. But that doesn't mean I'm not entitled to find the family decals annoying. Or long hair on men unattractive.
DeleteI suppose doing it for religious reasons is legit. Choosing long hair to protest norms, to me, is about as dumb as smoking to rebel against your parents. And besides, I find men who feel a need to "protest the norms" about as unattractive as those who are vain.
Truthfully, whatever reason they do it for, I simply don't find it attractive. I'm sure there's some quality in the opposite sex that you find unattractive. For example, I have relatively short hair for a woman, and if someone wrote a blog about how much they hated short hair on women, I wouldn't begrudge them that opinion.
I must have missed the family decals post earlier, I looked it up, and I agree that post, too, lacks a logic behind it
DeleteHowever, I admit not all the things we do have logical reasons. Otherwise humans would have been much easier to deal with
I apologize if I gave the impression that you should "censor" your posts or opinions. I just meant to discuss them, nothing more.
And to make myself clear, it was not the fact that you found long hair unattractive that irked me, it was the assumption that men do it simply for "vanity". I still think that's a sweep generalization, but you're entitled to your opinion
It's absolutely true that most people's personal preferences don't have much basis in logic. I was simply attempting to figure out the basis behind my own personal preference with a hypothesis that it was about vanity. That's why I used the word "maybe". But if, say, a guy had long hair because he was stranded on a desert island and simply couldn't cut it, I *still* wouldn't think it was attractive.
DeleteI'm sure if you tried to find reasons why you liked certain qualities in the opposite (or same) sex, the reasons would sound equally illogical.
Agreed, I am sure many things I like or dislike have illogical reasons behind them, or maybe no reason at all
DeleteThanks for taking time to respond to my comments :)
I'm always open for a civil discussion :)
DeleteI prefer longer hair on guys. I find short hair boring.
ReplyDeleteI understand the "vanity" thing I guess but I think it goes with both sexes on things other than hair. For example, women showing off their cleavage/hips/curves/body. Or a man showing off his muscles.
It really annoys me (for no good reason) how many omen dress and have a ton of "cute" shoes/clothes. if I have the choice (meaning I'm not working), I will live in my sweatpants and t-shirts. My grandmother, friends and some family think I should dress more "feminine." I don't like clothing in the stores and I think dressing "feminine" make you look prissy and that you spent a lot of time on your appearance. This seems like vanity to me. I know a lot of people care more about their appearance and clearly almost all womankind disagrees with me (otherwise why else would there be so many shoestores) but that's just how it comes across to me.
In both sexes, I think it's a vanity thing. For me, I think it's more that I think physical vanity is a female attribute, so it turns me off in the opposite sex.
DeletePhysical vanity exists in both sexes...otherwise why would all those guys in Jersey Shore wear so much damn hair gel (although this applies to the women as well)
DeleteI can tolerate physical vanity more in women though, mostly because I feel like society pressures us SO much to look good, it's almost like we don't have a choice.
DeleteI'm one of those that likes long hair (on a guy, at least) but I also think that a clean cut looks very professional. I can't stand untended hair (long or short) and hair should -never- be in the face. That said, I've never dated a guy with long hair. I just really like to look at it.
ReplyDeleteBeauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I, myself, am a guy with long hair, but this post doesn't really offend me at all :). I mean, I prefer long hair on girls, so it's completely plausible that there are women out there who prefer the opposite on men.
ReplyDeleteThen again, I do play guitar (mainly 80s metal and rock), so I'm expected to have long hair, haha.
I absolutely love Long hair on men . I think that any guy who can sport a long hairstyle oozes confidence & masculinity & doesn't let the vanilla norms of the society bog him down and for me that itself is an attractive quality right there.
ReplyDeleteThere has to be a reason why rockstars rock the long hair look and have girls drooling over them ,simply because long hair on men does rock !
I mean has any one seen Keith Freaking Urban ? or Cillian Murphy or Heath Ledger (RIP) with long hair ? drool !.
No, I'm aware that other women think it's hot. And I do think there are some guys who can pull it off. It's a personal preference, I guess, like everything else.
DeleteHey , I'm from Asia and in our part of country having women with long hair is absolutely adored(and long means REAL LONG). I just had a discussion with my friend today that ended with the conclusion that Guys do like women with long hair because LONG HAIR IS FEMININE. I guess the same goes for guys, Short hair looks good on them because well honestly I believe this is how a man is supposed to look. I'm talking about the general public here, not the rock stars or any celebrity. I guess it simply doesn't look manly enough. If I were ever to introduce a guy with long hair to my parents, I know they just wouldn't be able to digest that "unmanly" thing on his head and marrying their daughter to such a person will be quite hard on them, haha. But again, I guess everyone's got their own choice.
ReplyDeleteOh, and one more thing I find this social pressure on women forcing them to strive real hard in order to look good really terrifying. I'm an easy go kind of person when it comes to looking all-girly-and-glittery, and I feel really comfortable with no make-up and accessories at all. But seriously, it has become quite a hurdle for me. Lately some of my female colleagues have been telling me to try to look more "like a doctor". I'm trying to adapt BUT THAT IS JUST NOT ME, and it's really hard on me.
Long hair on men is great! Check out some of these pictures of long haired men, and tell me they don't look good!
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