I wrote a post recently about how much guilt I have over saying no, even when I feel I'm justified in my decision. The example I gave was of a time a couple of years ago when there was a hurricane bearing down on us. I planned to only be in a few hours and then be able to leave with plenty of time to beat the worst of the storm, but then a fellow consultant asked if I could help out doing a few of her (non-urgent) consults. And I said no, that she should leave when she felt it was safe, and to save anything she couldn't do on her own till after the hurricane and I'd help then (which I did).
I posted about this situation mostly because I felt it was an example of a time when I was truly ridiculous for feeling guilty. Rehab consults are never things that can't wait a couple of days. And while I had a few hours before the really bad weather started up, it's not like at noon there's no hurricane and at one there's a raging hurricane. It's a progression of increasingly bad weather and there's proportionally more danger the later you leave. Most people didn't come to work at all that day, as I noticed when I was nearly the only car on the road in the morning.
Yet several people commented on the post that I should have felt guilty. That in an impending hurricane, I should have gone and done these non-urgent consults, and if I didn't, I wasn't a team player.
Is that really what people think? Is it really important to literally risk your life to be a team player?
Honestly, I'd hate for somebody to have to tell my children that their mom died in a car accident because she stayed in the hospital during a hurricane evaluating a guy with chronic knee pain impeding his therapy.