When I was in a public elevator yesterday with two Caucasian women, I overheard the following conversation:
Woman #1: "Can you believe what's going on with Paula Deen?"
Woman #2: "I know! I feel so horrible!"
Woman #1: "Right! I mean, who hasn't used the N-word in their life?"
Woman #2: "Exactly! It's awful how they're shaming her for this!"
I felt a little embarrassed to be listening to this conversation, partially because I realized that they were only saying it in my presence because I'm white so I *wink wink* get it.
My thoughts were:
I have never used that word or any kind of racial slur. Not only that, I've never even been in a situation where I've wanted to use a racial slur but decided against it. I've never had a conversation with a person who used that word. Is it really so common?
I care less that Deen used a word and much more that she mistreated minority workers, which it seems may be the case.
But I kept my mouth shut. My husband told me I should have said something, but honestly, I think it's hella obnoxious to interrupt a conversation to give my piece. Isn't it? I mean, what would have been the point? It's not like I was going to convince them of anything.