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Tuesday, November 12, 2019

You're a doctor?

The other day I was with my daughter at a play date with one of her friends. I’ve known the parents of this friend for close to a year. I happened to mention I will be working the next day (it was Saturday).

Mother: “ I just realized I don’t know what you do.“

Me: “Well... I’m a doctor.“

Mother: “You are? Oh my God, I had no idea. Usually when people are doctors, I find out about five minutes after meeting them.”

I had a few other similar experiences recently, where it turned out somebody I knew for a long time didn’t realize I was a doctor. I guess this is information I don’t put out there too quickly. It seems odd though. It’s not like my career is a secret, but maybe I feel that people make assumptions of me once they know I’m a doctor.

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  1. Had this experience last weekend. Other parent asked what I did, so I told them. Then she got all weird. I was like ok first off you asked. Second, I’m the same person I was before. I usually try to avoid telling people too, but if they ask directly I will tell them. I do wonder whether “doctor” is a loaded enough term the even if you don’t blab about it all the time, just using the word is enough to make people feel like you are.

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  2. I'm not a physician, but one of my physician-friends says that for her, the biggest issue is friends/family asking medical questions. She's happier having time and relationships in which she's a person first and a doctor second.

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  3. before i went into medicine i was clergy, nothing kills the "what do you do for a living" conversation faster.

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  4. I'm a small town vet and avoid at all costs, which is hard when you live in a small town. I feel like all I hear about from people is animal problems or stories. It seems like people get nervous and don't know what else to talk about.

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  5. The guy at my answering service always calls me Ms. when speaking to me on the phone. He's connecting a patient to me but still never calls me doctor. I can't even convince my own answering service I'm a real physician.

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  6. I know, the young male nurses at the nursing home I visit keep calling me Ms (which after 40 years kind of bites). Just wait till you get into your 60s. A few days ago I saw a new eye doctor (in a practice I have referred to for years, mind you) and doctor --who looked to be 50-sih--asked me what kind of work I used to do. Honey I'm still working.....and might have sent you some referrals...except maybe not.

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